Challenging Teen Behaviour
These suggestions are just that, suggestions, and do not replace talking to your therapist about what might work best for your family situation. However, these are researched and supported suggestions and a great place to start when thinking about your family. We hope you find some value in them.
What are the triggers for my teens difficult to manage behaviour today?
Not enough sleep?
Too much screen time?
Enough physical activity?
What rules, boundaries and expectations are within your home culture?
Rules Audit – Are yours:
Clear, reasonable and meaningful
Not too many
Described for positive understanding? do vs don’t
Help your teen to set their goals to manage/cope with anger
Not punitive – Teens are the justice police so make your consequences make sense
Follow through and show leadership
Limit devices appropriately
Children need parents to be predictable and consistent
Be consistent – both parents, carers on the same page
Trust your judgement
DID YOU KNOW?
Behaviour is usually linked to a message. What is behind the outburst? What is really going on for your teen? Are they struggling with juggling friends, expectations, school, and home? Is there family distress, conflict, change?
Make time with your teen. Plan small amounts of time doing something that has meaning for them. Sit with them and play (appropriately rated) game or go for a run with them.
WHAT ABOUT ME?
Pre-plan and practice your response
What pushes your buttons?
Stay calm, watch your tone
Teens model you
Don’t engage in the emotion-walk away/ask them to walk away
Put together by Margi Wills, Counsellor at All About Kids
With reference to Rocker, L (2013) Managing difficult and challenging behaviour, Quirky Kid
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